A few years ago, I had an anniversary that I never imagined I would get to do.
I was just 16 years old.
When I turned 16, I decided to give birth to my daughter.
That was a dream that I have been chasing ever since.
I have two kids and I am still trying to find the time to fulfil my dream of having a child.
As I grew older, my ambitions increased.
I started working in a small company.
It was a job that I could do in any day of the week, which was important to me.
So, I set about building my business and becoming a parent.
But I never thought I would be able to fulfill all my dreams.
I was always happy and optimistic about life, but never in a good way.
I thought my life would get better as time went on.
But life got worse.
I found myself falling behind.
I started getting divorced and my finances got worse as well.
When it came to my personal life, I started dating women who seemed to think I had a ‘good life’.
I realised I had to put my career first and take care of my kids first.
So I quit my job and started focusing on raising my kids.
I realised I was missing the bigger picture.
Life went downhill from there.
I lost my job, my savings and my house.
I couldn’t live on my savings anymore.
So my wife, who was my mother, started living on her own.
I had two kids at home.
But it was a tough life and I was not able to fulfil all my aspirations.
I got to the point where I could no longer keep going.
I felt so ashamed of my own failings.
I decided that I had had enough and wanted to do something about it.
I left my job at a time when I was in need of money.
I went to the nearest bank and asked them to help me out.
The bank took the offer.
They gave me money in the form of a check for a down payment of about Rs 20,000.
I gave the money to the bank in cash.
When they realised that I was the one who had lent the money, they asked me to deposit it in their account.
When my wife received it, she thanked me and asked for her savings.
I had spent so much time working and saving and was living off the savings of my wife and my kids, that I decided I would never be able in the long run to pay for my kids’ education.
I thought that my life was over.
My wife and I were married in July 2017.
But when I got married, I realised that things had changed.
It took me several years to get used to this new way of living.
I now realised that life was not so easy.
I began to see that my wife was not my mother anymore.
My first thought was to stop living on my wife’s savings.
But that was not easy either.
I used to feel ashamed of her and that I did not care about her as a mother.
I didn’t want to spend money on my own children.
So we decided to split up the savings and to split the cost of the children.
I decided that we would start living on our own.
Life was not going so well for me and my wife.
I kept thinking that life had changed but that I would eventually become a parent too.
I wanted to fulfil the dreams that I held so dear.
But I was also starting to feel that things were going to get worse.
So at this point, I made the decision to have my own kids.
I realised that my marriage had fallen apart.
I could not even see my wife anymore.
I told my wife that we were going out of the marriage and that she should leave.
My life was becoming more and more unstable.
I spent a lot of time looking for a new partner and eventually found one who wanted to raise our children alone.
But this time, I couldn`t let that happen.
I kept trying to convince my wife to stay with me, but she refused.
She kept on saying that I should go and look for a suitable partner.
I tried to persuade my wife not to stay by saying that my son would be more at home with the kids if he was left at home alone.
But that never worked out.
She continued to keep telling me that I must move out.
I asked her why she continued to tell me this and she replied that I needed to get my children back.
I felt that I couldn´t trust her anymore.
She was trying to get me to go to the courts to fight against her.
But my wife wouldn´t listen.
She also kept on telling me, ‘I need to take care and take the children out of here’.
I realised then that my relationship with my wife had gone beyond good and bad.
I finally realised that there is a difference between a husband and a wife.
A husband should look after his family and a woman should take care about the children of