I’ve written before on this blog, and now I want to say a few words about my own birthday wishes, so I won’t be surprised if some of you are left wondering what the hell I was thinking.
It is a wonderful birthday, of course.
But it can also be a painful one.
The question is, do you want to go out with the “wishes” of a grown man and a grown woman, or do you wish for the “treats” of the woman, but the man’s wishes are not yours?
For me, this meant having a formal wish to the woman and then a formal invitation from the woman to come over to the house to celebrate with me, at the expense of the man.
But I had no choice but to accept that invitation.
When you do it for the man, the whole world knows what you want.
It might not be his wish, or hers, or yours.
So I would like to be clear: If I were you, I would want to make sure I had the wishes of the other person.
I wanted to know that the wishes came from the other, and that I had an invitation to share them with them, and I would love it if they shared them with me.
It’s important to remember that in all cases, the person who makes the request has the authority to make the wishes, not you.
It can be a lot to take in, especially if you are a person who has no formal power.
And for those of you who think you have that authority, remember: I am not a woman, nor am I a man.
I am a person, and it’s okay to say things that you find offensive, or to not want to do things that might make you feel uncomfortable, and there is a right way to do that.
I know how hard it can be for you to accept a formal offer from someone you don’t know.
It has been a long, hard, lonely road, and sometimes you may not be able to accept the offer at first.
But if you accept, you will be grateful for what you have, and you will know that you did the right thing.
If you are uncomfortable, ask yourself if there is anything you can do to get over the hump and start living life again.
I hope I have given you a sense of how hard the journey is, and why it can feel so different for each of us, even if it’s only a day at the office.
Thank you, and God bless you!